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Take Control

I’ve spent my life investigating what makes certain people successful and others not. And what I’ve found is that success is a science anyone can learn. First, I identified the threads that replay, over and over and over again, in virtually anyone who has produced massive results. I wanted to know how do successful people think, act, and use their emotions? After studying the top results-producing people on the planet, in a number of endeavors, core patterns began to emerge.

What are some of these patterns? The number one thing that all of these gifted “go-getters” share, whether conscious or unconscious, is they ALL take control of their lives. They direct their focus, physical body, and emotions in positive ways that produce results. Here’s what else I have found.

Successful People:

1.      Know what outcomes they want
2.      Have compelling reasons why they want it
3.      Stay laser focused on these outcomes
4.      Take action toward achieving the desired outcomes
5.      Produce results because of clear focus

To learn how to direct your focus so you too can achieve massive results, it is imperative to get really clear on what it is that you want. Start by picking one or two things that you want more than anything, that would absolutely fulfill you to the highest degree and are aligned with your strengths and skills.

Once you have clarity on your top one or two goals, the next steps are simple. Commit to taking an action each day that will lead you toward your desired outcome. When you know the outcome you want, you can match your actions to the desired results. This is taking control of your focus and the how people pay it forward into to obtain incredible success and fulfillment in the future.

Never Settle

The area where I see most of my clients making their worst decisions, no matter how brilliant they are in business, is in their love relationships. Why? Because typically there’s an imbalance of logic versus emotion dominating their decisions. Anytime your emotions are FULLY controlling your choices, expect to be derailed. Just like with business decisions, when you select a partner you need to look at the historical patterns and current patterns of your interactions, and ask yourself quality questions to receive quality answers that can help you develop a quality relationship.

  • Is this relationship aligned with my deepest beliefs and values?
  • Does this person satisfy my mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual needs or just one or two of these areas?
  • What behavioral patterns do they have that work for me? Don’t work for me?
  • What shared goals and dreams do we have?
  • Do I find it joyful or inspiring to spend time with this person?

It’s easy to get “sucked in” to relationships because of our strong need to be loved and give love to others. Relationships (especially romantic ones) play into one of the greatest human fears, that we aren’t lovable or that we just aren’t enough. It’s easy to get off course and settle for less than your ideal relationship when fear is your motivator. Fear of not being loved can override the little or big voice inside you that is whispering or screaming to you that this person is just not the right for you.

The good news is, you can use logic and intuition to engage certain behaviors that will help you find the right fit! When you raise your standards and don’t let fear rule your decision making, you’ll never settle for less than you deserve. Also, knowing ahead of time what you absolutely MUST have in a relationship and what you absolutely MUST NOT have can add clarity and logic, when your emotions might be in overload. And last but not least, let joy be your compass and barometer for your best match. Are you just killing time with this person or are you genuinely in “joy” and enjoying the time that you are investing in this relationship?

Remember, in relationships, people can only give you what they have. If someone in a relationship is not giving you what you want, it is for one of two reasons, either they aren’t invested in the relationship at the same level as you are or they just don’t have it to give.